Safety First, Forget all the beliefs!.....

Hey Embrace'rs

Here I am again with the stories to tell ya'll. Today is the day to express how i am feeling. Yet it is only the beginning. too many incidents have  happened in the last couple weeks. Long story short, court papers had to be served.
Remember when i mentioned how my previous relationship was like a roller coaster that i kept getting on and i already knew better not to get on. Wellllll i finally got off and i am staying off. this is a very challenging and trying time for me. Because i swore to myself that i would never ever keep my children away from their dad. And here i am with the hand i was dealt to keep them away from him for theirs and my own safety. Honestly being a woman of Domestic Violence sucks!!. especially when you share multiple children with your abuser. In order to stay firm in the placed boundaries, at times you must go against your beliefs and go for your safety.
All of those years that i feared of leaving this relationship kept me from receiving the real love, understanding, and warmth from the very people that i loved deeply, and dearly. I thought I was protecting my family from him but when i realized i was protecting him by isolating myself.
Please, who ever is going through a domestic violence case go and tell a trusted person in your family, or professional because the people who you are going to need are the ones that already knew the deal in the first place and will get you through this trying time.
Two: Do not be ashamed! you are NOT alone! Even professionals go through DV
Three: Get grounded with your spirituality! Trust, you are going to need something more divine and greater strength than you to get through.
When it comes to considering what is ideal for you and your children safety. Remember Withhold all the beliefs and think about SAFETY FIRST! Us as mother and the primary caregivers we have to place our beliefs in the back burners and Do what is safe for the tribe. these children only get ONE MOTHER!!! protect yourself! take care of yourself! Stay blessed. I love ya'll. Embracing yourself is the key to loving yourself.

~ Ellie, I am EmbraceU ~

No Shame...its much Bigger!!!

Hey Embrace'rs

Its been a while, i know. but let me tell you  about my relationship with my children's father, now ex. You ever been on the highest roller coaster at an amusement park?, get on the ride, knowing you are taking a huge risk; unprepared to face the consequences of this decision,yet still get on the ride. Yeah, that is how the entire relationship consisted of. Now I've matured out of that young, risque mentality. you know attracted to  the "bad boy" type of men. i am so much deserving, and worthy of real love.
I've done much work on myself that i realized i was ashamed to verbally state that i am a  survivor of abuse and i am still pushing along the scarring of the abuse. My abuser still tries very hard to wheel me back in, with the fact that, we shared children together and the love i HAD for him. however, he has not concluded that i am seriously not playing games with him. All sides are with me and i am going come up on top. God is with me; then WHO can be against me.........NOBODY!!!!! ( keith sweat said best, you hear me ladies). if you feel that you can not go on with the abuse; it is your time to make moves in receiving the help you need to move forward in peace and safely. We are the small percentage that has survived such incident like domestic violence. So PLEASE Ladies , ABUSE comes in all shapes, colors, and sizes. DO NOT be ashamed of what society says. SPEAK OUT! Speak UP! Embrace U thru this journey 'cause you are definitely not alone. And if you have children. Please consider their livelihood and future well being. End the generational curse of our ancestors!! this is must bigger than the superficial circumstances.
Love y'all. Stay blessed. Stay safe. You are loved. Embrace U is the key to loving yourself.

         ~ Ellie ~

      I am EmbraceU